|—||The late Ayatallāh Mirza Jawad al-Tabrīzi (q)|
|—||Imam Ja’far al-Sadiq (ع) Biharul Anwar v. 83, p. 22, no. 40 (via shiaislam)|
Being married forces you to fine tune those not-so-great-aspects of yourself and strive to be better. Love comes in here too; when you are in a loving relationship (and in love and loved); you have this amazing reservoir of energy within you that allows you to flourish and nurture.
It brings out the best in you and makes you strive to be better because someone cares and loves you; and vice versa. It is kind of like how we instinctively react to another’s perception of us, when they think well of us and believe in us, we want to do even better; but when they disparage us we will get defensive. Is it any wonder that our beloved Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said that marriage is half of faith?
|—||Al Habib Umar bin Hafiz|
|—||(Udda al-Da’i, by: Ibn Fahad al-Hilli)|
Take this all with a grain of salt since I’m not a scholar and this is my 2 cents:
I think it’s important to understand that our reputation and it’s protection comes from Allah, not us. Meaning you can strive and strive to cover your reputation and to show yourself as a good person and in a matter of a second God can reveal you. He’s the protector of our reputation while most of us think it’s people who have a say in our reputation.
We need to do our duty and leave the rest to Allah. However, at the same time Islam does tell us to care about our reputation as far as don’t ruin it yourself and don’t do things that leave people putting question marks on you. So essentially there needs to be a balance: don’t fret over everything you do ,scared of what people might think … but don’t be so oblivious to think, I don’t give a care of what people will say or think about me.
In regards to friends, the first and foremost thing is to be sure they aren’t affecting you. The first person you have to save is yourself not anybody else. If you’re drowning, you can’t go save anybody else since you’re sinking meanwhile. You get your head above the water and then go rescue your friend. So make sure this friend isn’t impacting you at all and you’re the one placing all the impact. If you feel like they are actually changing by your presence and coming towards God more and more, then it’s worth it. I would say hang out with them and because they are changing and people will see that. However, don’t tell me you’re hanging out with the wrong person in the wrong place - because then that negative reputation does reflect on you too. At the end of the day make dua that Allah purifies your intention for this friendship to be for His plesure and for Allah to guide your friend. Insha’Allah you’ll see Allah’s glory shine and that not only you won’t have the negative reputation reflected on you but Allah will also elevate you iA for your sincere intentions.
|—||Messenger of Allah [saws], Bihār Al-Anwār, V.92, Pg.19 (via thelittlephilosopher)|
- Prophet Muhammad (saws)
In the footnotes of: Bihār, V.31, Pg.59:
Al-Alamāh Al-Amini has collected fifty nine narrations in his book of Ghadeer, V.7, Pg.331-336