what do you think about a girl who does all the wajibat (salat, fast, hijab, etc) considering marriage with a boy who struggles with praying, does not fast, and has a not-so-decent past?
Because you’re asking me personally, my answer would be don’t go forward (my opinion isn’t worth half a cent). The one thing you have in your life is your eman and it’s a pity if you downgrade on it by marrying somebody who is less religious than you. Yeah, there is always a potential of the boy to improve but what if he doesn’t? you should marry people as is and not on potential because there is no guarantee they will change. Girls usually are super influenced by the man they marry so it’s a high chance he will make you less committed. Would you want your kids conflicted by seeing a mom who is practicing and a day who isn’t as much?
Again there are exceptions and in case is different. Just surface value I think eman-wise it would be ideal for the couple to be at the same level.
Are Muslim women suppose to wear abaya/jilbab when they go out? Or do modest clothing satisfy?
Please ask a scholar about this and don’t take my word for it.
From what I know/heard there is no requirement as it specifically being an abaya and the criteria is that the clothing should cover all the skin of the body except the face and the hands. Also, it should be modest and loose and not to show the curvature of a woman’s body. I remember a sheikh saying some ladies can just wear a very loose shirt and very baggy pants and be fine while others might feel the abaya is better. Sometimes some abayas nowadays are tight or cut in a way that it shows the curvature more and it’s more attractive to men vs if the girl just wore pants that were loose … at the end of the day, as girls we shouldn’t fool ourselves and most of the time your gut feeling will tell you whether your outfit is modest or not … go stand in front of your dad and if he says your outfit is immodest, you have your answer.
“Offer prayer to Allah, and don’t say that what is destined will happen. You should remember that Allah has absolute control over the destinies, and supplication can change the fate of persons.”—Imam Jafar al-Sadiq (as)
“A person who says I don’t want to progress spiritually too high since the test gets more difficult is similar to a person sitting by the door of mercy of Allah who has left it open for them to come in but they just tell Allah to bring whatever it is to them and leave it by the door …”—Br. K
دیشب تو مسیر حرم یکی از رفقا گفت … *یه بار آیت الله [ اسمشونو یادم رفت] با تعدادی از شاگردانشون داشتن برای تدریس به سمت کلاس میرفتن یه دفعه وسط مسیر [ کوچه ] برمی گردن تو خونه … وقتی بر میگردنُ میرسن به همراهانشون که منتظرشون بودن گفتن چی شد آقا که بر گشتین سمت خونه جواب دادن یه مورچه روی لباسم بود بردم گذاشتم اونجایی که لباسم رو برداشتم … بهشون میگن آقا شما کلاس داشتین, کارتون مهمه … بعد میگن از کجا معلوم کار اون مهم تر نباشه !
One day one sheikh was walking with his students towards class when he suddenly in the middle of the way he turns around and goes back home. Then he returns back to continue on his path to class and catches up with his students who ask, what happened? The sheikh responded by saying that there was an ant on my clothes and I went to put it back from where I picked up my clothes to get dressed. The students say you had class and a lot of stuff to do though! He responds: How do you know, maybe the ant’s work was a lot more important than mine!
Hi, I was wondering if you have any tips on how we can best understand scientific concepts (for someone in a biology bachelor's). I have a very difficult time grasping biology and physics concepts. I understand the material when I'm reading, but forget them as soon as I'm done. thank you!
If you understand them then and there and then forget … that means you need more repetition. When you understand something, make sure to write it out or type it out somewhere in your own words the way it clicked in your mind. That way, when you go back and read it, it still makes sense. Then keep going over it and reviewing it over and over again. They say on average you need to see something 7 times for it to stay in your brain => that means repetition in key. People make it seem like smartness means you get it the first time. That’s not true. Believe me most people need to repeat things over and over again and once it’s in your long term memory, you are good.
“We, the Imams, are patient but our Shias are more patient than us. We remain patient while we are aware of the realities but our Shias remain patient while they do not know what will happen to them.”—Imam Jafar As-Sadiq (as)
“I prayed to God, and asked him sincerely for someone to fall in love with me. Then I heard a voice, so powerful and yet so beautiful, “So long as you remember me, you will always be loved.”—Seja Majeed (via chador-lover)
“If there is an inflammation in your eye, you try to cure it. This is because your eye has tasted the sweetness of this world, its beauty, and you do not want to risk losing it. But your insight, your perspicacity has been suffering for forty years and you do not care for it?”—Ibn Ataillah
“Over the years, I also came to realize that adversity did not merely lead people to believe in God’s existence. It pulled those who already believed into a deeper experience of God’s reality, love, and grace. One of the main ways we move from abstract knowledge about God to a personal encounter with him as a living reality is through the furnace of affliction.”—Timothy Keller
So often it hurts us that we are not able to focus in our prayers. Remember, the more you focus on Allah outside your salah, the easier it will be to focus on Him inside your salah. What occupies you in salah, is what occupies you outside of salah. Try to fill your mind and heart with Allah as much as you can throughout your day. Talk to Him, make duaa to Him constantly. This will build your personal relationship with Him. Then, going to salah will be like coming home to an old friend.
“The heart is a confusing, altering thing. No state is forever. No state of bliss lasts forever. But no state of pain does either. They all pass. So if you experience happiness, ask Allah to make it forever in jennah. And if you experience sadness, ask Allah to make it a means of purification and elevation for you. And know that this too shall pass.”—Yasmin Mogahed
“If Allah had wanted to create Adam from a light whose glare would have dazzled the eyes, whose handsomeness would have amazed the wits, and whose smell would have caught the breath, He could have done so; and if He had done so, people would have bowed to him in humility and the trial of the angels through him would have become easier. But Allah, the Glorified, tries His creatures by means of those things whose real nature they do not know in order to distinguish good and bad for them through the trial, and to remove vanity from them and keep them aloof from pride and self-admiration.”—Imam Ali (a.s.), Nahj al-Balagha, Sermon 191 (via yaseeneducation)
“Poverty is one of the most horrible of calamities. But still worse than poverty is the bodily sickness; and the sickness of soul is worse than the bodily sickness. Plenty of wealth is one of God’s blessing, but sound health is better than that, and the piety of heart is even superior than sound health.”—
Salaam, I would really appreciate your advice in this matter: What should one do when one's in-laws ask to borrow a lot of money (practically your entire savings) for a project they have been doing and promise to pay it back in 10 months? I don't like the idea of financial transactions with in-laws as I feel it can strain a relationship. Also, it is a lot of money- all of my savings. Thank you!
hmm this is a hard one. Please consult a sheikh or somebody who has experience with these cases because I have 0.
If it was me: I would though look into why and how badly they need the money. If you and your immediate family can do away with your savings for that long then islamically you’ll gain a lot of sawab for lending money (it’s even higher than giving charity). It can strain the relationship and I understand that so it’s kind of risky but regardless make your intention for Allah either way you go.
“If you are really sincere in your advice, you address it in privacy. If it’s private, it’s easier to achieve the truth. But when you are in a large group, the ego takes over. And then there’s the chance that it’s not sincere, it’s for achieving the upper hand.”—ShaykhḤamza Yūsuf translating Imāmal-Ghazālī’sKitāb al-‘Ilm.
“As far as companionship [with your parents] is concerned, keep their company and be gentle with them. Endure their hardship just as they endured yours when you were young, and do not withhold from them that which Allah has made plentiful for you in the way of food and clothes. Do not turn your face away from them nor raise your voice above theirs. To respect them is part of Allah’s command; speak to them in the best possible way and be kind to them. Allah will not let the reward of those who do good go to waste.”—Imam al-Sadiq (as), Lantern of the Path (via ahlulbayt-saviour)
Do not delay asking for forgiveness. Every night before you sleep, ask for forgiveness from Allah. Because the second you close your eyes, your soul departs your body. But its return is never guaranteed.