Lustful desires are fatal diseases, and the best cure for them is acquiring patience against them.
Amirul Mo’minin Imam Ali ibn Abi Talib (ع) Ghurar al-Hikam p. 540, h. 6
Salaam, I would really appreciate your advice in this matter: What should one do when one's in-laws ask to borrow a lot of money (practically your entire savings) for a project they have been doing and promise to pay it back in 10 months? I don't like the idea of financial transactions with in-laws as I feel it can strain a relationship. Also, it is a lot of money- all of my savings. Thank you!
hmm this is a hard one. Please consult a sheikh or somebody who has experience with these cases because I have 0.
If it was me: I would though look into why and how badly they need the money. If you and your immediate family can do away with your savings for that long then islamically you’ll gain a lot of sawab for lending money (it’s even higher than giving charity). It can strain the relationship and I understand that so it’s kind of risky but regardless make your intention for Allah either way you go.
Remember that the most precious thing you own in this world is your heart. So don’t let anything taint your heart.
Imam Zain al-Abedeen (as)
If you are really sincere in your advice, you address it in privacy. If it’s private, it’s easier to achieve the truth. But when you are in a large group, the ego takes over. And then there’s the chance that it’s not sincere, it’s for achieving the upper hand.
Shaykh Ḥamza Yūsuf translating Imām al-Ghazālī’s Kitāb al-‘Ilm.
I believe in good timing. I believe in God’s timing.
As far as companionship [with your parents] is concerned, keep their company and be gentle with them. Endure their hardship just as they endured yours when you were young, and do not withhold from them that which Allah has made plentiful for you in the way of food and clothes. Do not turn your face away from them nor raise your voice above theirs. To respect them is part of Allah’s command; speak to them in the best possible way and be kind to them. Allah will not let the reward of those who do good go to waste.
Anyone who shows the way to something good has the same reward as the person who does it.
'Blessed is he whose knowledge and practice, love and hate, acceptance and refusal, speech and silence, and words and actions are sincerely for the sake of Allah.'
The look of a child towards his parents out of love for them is an act of worship.
A step toward your own heart
is a step toward the Beloved.
عاشق آن است که یا دیده به گل وا نکند
یا به غیر از گل روی تو تماشا نکند
I seek refuge in You from a soul which is never content, a stomach which is not satisfied and a heart which has no humility.
Do not delay asking for forgiveness. Every night before you sleep, ask for forgiveness from Allah. Because the second you close your eyes, your soul departs your body. But its return is never guaranteed.
Inform My servants that I am the Forgiving, the Merciful
The greatest reward comes with the greatest affliction